Sedona is a beautiful place in springtime to renew your love. If your love life could use a spruce up follow these love tips to add some spice.
1. Find out what your mate's language is and what helps them feel loved. For example do they feel loved when they hear "I love you," auditory. Do they feel loved when they receive flowers or a card, visual. Or maybe they need a touch or hug in order to feel loved, kinesthetic. It becomes easier when you learn to speak the language that your mate can hear or feel.
2. EFT or Emotional Freedom empower you with the tools to heal your past hurt and trauma and stop your recurring fighting patterns. First realize, that each of you are reacting from past hurt and trauma, and never from what is or has happened in the present moment. Until you heal the old stuck hurt and trauma, it will continue to be brought to the surface to be healed and released.
3. Agree on a word that can be used by both partners as a signal to stop the fight. Make an agreement to honor each other and your love by stopping the argument when the word is said by either partner. This word must have meaning for both of you. Words used by previous couples include: love, partnership, agreement, commitment, healing, what is important, the past, freedom, I choose love. You can also decide on a symbol of love and unity ie: a Dove, heart, a pink bubble of light. When you feel yourself stuck in reaction say the word and hold the symbol in your mind and breath.
4. If you become so triggered that you can't keep yourself from reacting; you are hitting a core survival issue. When this occurs you might need help to get unstuck. Find someone who has experience working with couples and EFT and give them a call to either work in person, or over the phone.
Our Sedona Retreats offer tools for healing your core issues with EFT or Emotional Freedom Technique. I also work with clients throughout the world by phone and have great results with couples issues, core issues, stop smoking and weight loss. If you are feeling stuck and want to reconnect to the love you once felt in your relationship give me a call. Spring is a great time to retreat and heal your relationship and reconnect to love.