Is Your Relationship Making You Sick??

When couples disagree and then shut down and give each other the silent treatment it has been proven to create health problems. Married women who keep silent during marital disputes have a greater chance of dying from heart disease and other conditions than women who speak their minds, research shows. The research, from the mid-1980s to the mid-1990s, was the latest to show that how couples fight affects not only their relationship but their health.

And a 2003 study in the journal Archives of General Psychiatry found that after marital spats, blisters generally healed more slowly, a sign that stress interfered with immune system functioning. In hostile couples — those who hurled insults or rolled their eyes when arguing — healing was 60 percent slower than in couples who didn't display antagonistic behaviors, the study showed.

Love's Secret offers couples easy to apply tools to release emotions and stay connected to love. Couples who learn to express their emotions have a greater chance of long term success in their relationships. Use this tip to stay focused on love when you are discussing an issue that brings discord. Find a word that has meaning to both you and your mate. This word can be anything that will bring you both back to your love. It can be as simple as "focus on LOVE" or "what is important" or whatever will work for the two of you. When one person repeats the word agree to each take a deep breath and for a moment back away. When you take a breather focus on what is important to you. And most importantly remind yourself that you are committed to stay connected and release the emotions are causing you to want to shut down.

Many times arguments are over little things and couples allow little things that don't matter to push love out of their life. Comment on my post and give me your ideas and secrets that help you stay connected to love.