Learning to clear your disagreements without using out old tactics that destroy love; shows signs of emotional maturity. It is an art to air your dirty laundry and reach a compromise without closing your heart.
When you begin a serious discussion on an issue that has an emotional charge; make an agreement to find a mutual compromise. Begin the discussion by taking five minutes at the beginning to sit and look into the eyes of your partner. Focus on your commitment to your mate and what you love about them, and remember your goal to find a mutual compromise. Your commitment will keep you on track and avoid falling into old habits of arguing to prove your point. When you begin a discussion with an agreement to find a compromise, there is a higher purpose to guide you through.
"Life without love is like a tree without blossoms or fruit."-Kahlil Gibran
“Love is the condition in which the happiness of another is essential to your own.”
-Jubel in Stranger in a Strange Land, by Robert Heinlein